Island County Taxes

How much money would one need to earn per year in order to afford the following lifestyle in suburban NY or LA

A family of 4 in, let’s say either Orange County, California, or Long Island New York, would need to earn how much to:

-Have a comfortable, tastefully furnished 4 bedroom home over 3000 square feet in area.

-At least 2 late model vehicles, one a SUV and the other a European sedan like a BMW

-2 children in private or parochial schools

-A summer cottage near a lake or ocean

-A boat of medium size

-a couple vacations a year

-dinner out at least once or twice a week

-enough income to pay all the bills with some extra to invest

-never having to concern themselves too often with financial matters

-more than enough income to put something away for a comfortable retirement, the kid’s college funds, a rainy day fund, and some extra to play the market.

In essence, to live a comfortable, upper-middle-class lifestyle, free from most financial worries.

Give me a good estimate or range of how much before taxes one would need to earn to afford such a life in NY/LA

AT LEAST $800,000/yr.
I have a 1 bedroom in a nice neighborhood in Long Beach and my rent is $1400/mo! My car is a 2004 Mazda…and i barely make it on $70,000/yr. I have no children.